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Should vs Could 🤔

Writer's picture: Linda LanyonLinda Lanyon

👉Language matters👈

SHOULD = COULD + SHAME


Let that sink in… 🤔


When did you last use SHOULD?

In my past, I have SHOULD’d all over the place!😅- judging myself and others.

Now SHOULD is a word I choose not to use – why?...


SHOULD comes from a conditional place of judgement.

👉“You should home cook all your child’s meals” – you are SHAMING the other person if they don’t do as you suggest.

When applied to ourselves, it revolves around chasing SELF-ESTEEM:

👉“I should go to the gym” – here, my SELF-ESTEEM is conditional


💫COULD is judgement free💫

👉“You could home cook all your child’s meals” – you are offering options without judgement.

When applied to ourselves, it comes from a place of SELF-WORTH:

👉“I could go to the gym” – here the focus is on freedom of choice and self-worth. I can choose to be a good friend to myself, whether that means taking care of my body or doing something else that I need in order to nourish myself in this moment.

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When you come from a place of COULD, you see new options. This often leads to CREATIVITY, REGENERATION and INNOVATION, as well as not playing into a conditional self-esteem frame of mind.

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Where could you replace SHOULD with COULD today?

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...be in curiousity not judgment my friends 😊



Acknowledgments:

Inspiration for this post came from iPEC Coaching and John Niland of Self-Worth Academy talking at PWN Global


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